You're a Gem my Friend.

Real friends are an important part of the healing process. Sometimes in the process of escaping a relationship with an NPD you may lose a few friends. The problem is the fact the NPD will malign your character. The NPD will convince your friends, co-workers, & loved ones that you're the one to blame. That you're the liar, the narcissist. It's a blame game to them & they want to win. How to play the game without confrontation? The least confrontation possible with an NPD is the best.

Learn to love yourself and walk away. If it means being alone, be alone. If it means reinventing yourself, do it. Be yourself, be truthful to yourself. Give yourself what you need the most. Remember that in order to be able to give to others, sometimes you need to give to yourself. This isn't a material "give." It's allowing yourself to be able to allow yourself to give inwards so to speak. Give yourself time to process what has happened. Find a licensed therapist that knows how to help you. Someone who uses a combination of CBT, DBT, EMDR, & other therapies utilized to process and deal with trauma. Talk therapy is helpful to a certain extent, however the truth of the matter is: the more you talk about it, sometimes you stay stuck in it. It's about finding a therapist that will help you to move past it.

If you're so inclined, go to a new age shop or amazon even and buy a real rose quartz. A tumbled stone, a pendant, a bracelet, whatever calls to you. Rose quartz is one of the most healing gemstones for your heart.

Run that quartz under cold water for a minute or two to get the old energy out. Once it's dry, hold it in your right hand and envision a white light coming straight down out of the sky and empower that stone. You could say "I empower this stone with self love, thank you for all of your help, I truly appreciate it." If this resonates with you, there are a plethora of gemstones that can assist you in your endeavours. Gems are like friends, they all have different qualities we like and appreciate that nurture and encourage us in different ways. Treat them like you would your friends. If you drop it by accident, apologize! If you lose them, it's ok to grieve. Cry! I've lost gems and jewelry and I cry like crazy when it happens. However, I know in my heart that someone else needs that gem too, so in a way I know someone who really needs them has them. This way I have a new friend of a friend and that's not so bad really. I think of it like networking so to speak.

Hematite is a wonderful grounding, protective stone that can help you to stop absorbing the negativity of others. Hematite doesn't respond well to water so smudging is a more appropriate way to cleanse. White Sage is one of the best to smudge with.

Gemstones can be a beautiful way to enhance your energy, your environment, and your life.