What Narcopaths are & what they use against you

A Narcopath is a term used by many therapists when they refer to a blend of personality disorders. Narcissists are individuals that only have interest in their own well being. They're always looking out for #1, themselves. Psychopathic behaviour is often violent and abnormal behaviour. Psychopaths are individuals who suffer from a severe mental disorder. These individuals lack empathy, yet are quite often quite charming. Ever heard the saying "He could charm the bark off a tree?" Welcome to the lure of the psychopath.

A sociopath is an individual with a personality disorder which manifests in extreme antisocial behaviour and attitudes who possess little to no empathy.

Women and men often find that the abuse they go through is at the hands of a narcopath. This is serious, scary, and a little too common in today's world.

These individuals, narcopaths, are truly evil. There is no changing them, there is only learning how to cope and how to be prepared to deal with the peculiar behaviours they present to you.

1.Lovebombing. Lovebombing is tactic that lures people into these relationships in the first place. They pour on the love, affection, gifts, and charm. It's all about making their target feel safe, happy, loved, wanted, and dependent on their affections.

2.Guilting. If and when you stick up for yourself they will make you feel like you're the "bad guy." They use what's known as emotional blackmail. They make you feel awful for refusing them. Often will say "If you truly love me, you'd do exactly what I say."

3.Threats "If you leave me I'll kill myself." "If you leave me I'll hurt your pets." "If you leave me I'll hurt your friends." They'll even go into detail about the hurt they will devise against your friends, family, & pets.

4. Isolating. They will convince you to give up your friends, family, favourite past times etc. They may even move you to another location far removed from society.

5. Withdrawing affection.Once they know you're in love with them they withdraw attention & affection just to get under your skin, so to speak. This is also a control tactic used if you refuse to do what they want you to do.

6.Undermining. They enjoy undermining your confidence and your self esteem. They enjoy making you squirm, they enjoy making you feel terrible about yourself though compliments, jokes, criticism, and comments which are totally backhanded and cruel

For example, an ex once said to me "I wish you looked like that, I'd much rather go home with that." As we walked past a Victoria's Secret Mannequin. I bit my lip & tried not to cry since I was in public."Your dvd isn't working, your leg doesn't look like hers." (I already had severe body issues & have been diagnosed with BDD-his behaviour made my condition 10x worse).

7.Triangulating. They create love triangles that aren't even there. An ex said in a therapy session "I feel like I'm in a one way relationship because she doesn't love me." Lie, bold faced lie. He asked me to leave & lied that I left him for someone else. They also get your friends & family involved to gang up on you when & if you try to leave them. For example an ex asked me to leave (he had been cheating on me so I was happy to leave) & he got a friend of friends to convince me to go back to him.

7. Physical violence/Threats. This is a control tactic. My nose was broken, I have scars on my face, a spinal injury, multiple neck & head injuries from 1 ex. This ex used bizarre tactics to control me by threatening to dismember me if I ever became successful.

I have cognitive impairments due to the head injuries, PTSD, Stockholm Syndrome, Selective Mutism, & BDD.

My exes are brilliant, charming, funny men who could "charm the bark off a tree," but you'd better beware because they could cause severe injuries to anyones self esteem. One killed a family pet, how charming is that? I'd say it's downright evil.